Month: Feb 2020

Thank you for being my Piglet.

“Today was a Difficult Day,” said Pooh.

There was a pause.

“Do you want to talk about it?” asked Piglet.

“No,” said Pooh after a bit. “No, I don’t think I do.”

“That’s okay,” said Piglet, and he came and sat beside his friend.

“What are you doing?” asked Pooh.

“Nothing, really,” said Piglet. “Only, I know what Difficult Days are like. I quite often don’t feel like talking about it on my Difficult Days either.

“But goodness,” continued Piglet, “Difficult Days are so much easier when you know you’ve got someone there for you. And I’ll always be here for you, Pooh.”

And as Pooh sat there, working through in his head his Difficult Day, while the solid, reliable Piglet sat next to him quietly, swinging his little legs…he thought that his best friend had never been more right.”
A.A. Milne

🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡

From time to time, my mood dips and it’s usually triggered by a flare up in MS symptoms. Go figure.

This last week I’ve been feeling so extremely tired and in quite a bit of discomfort, particularly in my legs and hips. It’s not fun, but it’s my reality.

I don’t like to allow myself to feel too sorry for myself though – after all, there are plenty of other MSers who have it worse. But the reality is, there’s millions of other people who DON’T have MS. So I’m totally allowed to feel bloody miserable from time to time. And that’s ok. The big thing is how I recover from that, which I always do.

In the past few days, I’ve been feeling extreme amounts of gratitude. Particularly towards Dave. Some people would say it goes without saying and if the shoe was on the other foot, I would do exactly what he’s done, but it blows my mind that he’s stuck by me through this. The fact that I’m rarely up for a night out and would rather sleep doesn’t seem to bother him at all. And that deep realisation of just how much someone must love you is enough to move you to tears.

Unfortunately, in the many Facebook support groups I’m a part of, I often see that it’s all too common for the diagnosis and having a disabled partner to be too much. The other partner leaves. And it’s so easy to say that if someone leaves you in the face of your disability that you’re better off without them, but the truth is, we all need our Piglet.

Piglet and Pooh’s story is about me and every single person in my life who let me have my bad days thanks to the psychological impact of MS. I have been in awe as I’ve come to the realisation over the last week or so how many amazing people have my back. Especially when I’m having a Difficult Day.

Thank you for being my Piglets.

NEDA. The best a girl can get.

NEDA. Sounds like nada. And ‘nada’ is the exact amount of damage MS has done since I’ve started Lemtrada.

NEDA means ‘no evidence of disease activity’ which is the best result I could get from an MRI scan. I mean I could be told that my lesions are shrinking but since there’s no cure for MS I’m pretty cynical about that – or rather, I don’t believe it actually means anything.

Anyway, it was news I needed to hear and helped me put my positive pants back on. I’ve been feeling a little disillusioned about my choice to have Lemtrada recently. I’ve not relapsed since being diagnosed, but for some reason I feel worse which just wasn’t making sense. And when I say worse, I’ve found I’m having to make new adjustments. When cooking, I’ve found I’ve needed to sit at the kitchen table to do the chopping and prep of a meal because standing up for a long time is getting hard! (Note to self – buy a perching stool). When going into town, I’m having to find a bench to sit on and take a break whilst Dave pops into a shop. Things are just feeling a bit tougher.

Talking to my nurse put it in perspective though. He rightly pointed out that I’m still only 7 months post recovery of my second round of Lemtrada. It’s winter which makes all of us feel rubbish and it’s really hard to recover from the Christmas period with MS. I moved house. I’m still adjusting and recovering from life being crazy!

So the good news is that I might not be getting better, but I’m certainly not getting any worse. Since I’ve had my treatment people always ask “has it worked?”

If by “worked” people mean that I’m not getting worse, then I can finally now confidently say that yes, it has.

If this is as bad as I’m going to feel then that’s a small price to pay to stop things getting worse. And I’m delighted with this news.

OMS (Overcoming MS) Diet

Mid 2018 I decided to limit my intake of meat products. I no longer purchased meat to cook myself but would still eat it if someone else was cooking to avoid being a pain in the back side. When eating out, I’d make my food choice by first seeing if I wanted any of the veggie options. If that was a no, I’d move to the pescatarian (fish) options. If I still didn’t want it, I’d look at the meat options as an absolute late resort.

At this stage in my life I had spent most of my 20s yo-yo and fad dieting but had vowed to give up abusing my body in this way when I was diagnosed with MS. So, I totally forgave a close friend asking me “is this not just another diet in disguise?”

No. It wasn’t. Because this time I wasn’t doing it to lose weight. I wasn’t doing it for my health on a superficial level. Shit had got real.

By mid-January 2019 I hadn’t eaten any meat products since the start of the year and was finding it relatively easy. Then I completed my Reiki 2 attunement around that time and suddenly it wasn’t just a case of not eating meat for my health – ethics became important to me too. Once you’ve given up meat and don’t find it too difficult, it becomes much easier to face up to the ethics around the meat industry. We very much bury our head in the sand because the reality of how animals are treated can be too horrific to face up to.

But I digress. And perhaps I need to back-track a little. How did I know that giving up meat products was good for my “MS health?”

Upon diagnosis one of the first questions I asked was whether there was something I could do food-wise to help myself. Slow it down. Reduce day-to-day symptoms. That’s when I stumbled upon Professor George Jelinek’s book, Overcoming MS (OMS).

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OMS isn’t just a diet. It’s a sevenstep recovery programme with proven results. These steps are outlined throughout the book. Which I never made it through. Yep. I said it. Didn’t even get past page 47. In all honesty though, at the time I don’t think I was ready to make as dramatic a change in my life as my diet given the news of the enormous change that is MS.

Following the launch of my recent podcast episode, I had some lovely feedback from @healthy_living_gem on Instagram. We had a bit of a conversation about “MS stuff” and we ended up discussing diet. She explained to me how she more or less follows the OMS diet now and how it’s helped her. She also told me she follows it roughly 80% of the time. This makes me feel a whole lot better about halloumi. Not going to lie – the thought of quitting halloumi is a heavy part of my reluctance to go plant based! Also, I’m so “all or nothing” about stuff that it scares me that I’ll set myself up for failure.

But now I’m ready to face it. Essentially, from the point of view of the diet, I’m becoming a fish-eating vegan. I want to make this a slow-(ish) transition. I plan to start by switching my milk from dairy to almond right away. I’ll start trying to have just one plant and fishbased day a week until I find my feet with new recipes and finding something I can work with that doesn’t compromise on rest time. Because food prep is exhausting! I’d be thrilled if in six months’ time, I’m following Gem in a healthy 80/20 balance and eating fish and plant based at least six days of the week.

So today, I’ll start reading my OMS book again. And in coming blogs, I’ll talk about the different stages of the plan and how I’m getting on with it.

Do you follow OMS? How do you find it?

***If you have a diagnosis of MS a really kind person made a donation to allow people to get the book for free! It does depend on the country you’re in but for the UK, Ireland, NZ and Australia can get a hard copy of the book and for those in the US you can get an ebook version by clicking here.***