Category: Off-Topic

More days like that please.

I’m really conscious that I’ve not posted for almost a week, and not since my meltdown.

So to confirm, I’m ok. Just about. Ironically after my hysteria of the pain never leaving me, I’ve not had bad “night time leg pain” since. I think the temperature dropping has done me the absolute world of good. I just feel more comfortable. Not all the aches and pains are gone and my ankle is giving me a quite a bit of hassle today but for the most part, I’m ok 

On late Friday afternoon I ventured down to London to attend Mel Wells’ Self Love Summit which was quite frankly the best thing I’ve done in a while. I’m experiencing a spiritual awakening of sorts and all the signs for me to attend were there. I was offered a free ticket the week prior, the Hilton Hotel opposite the venue was 41,000 points on their loyalty scheme (I had 41,086 in my account) and the money I’d claimed through my healthcare plan for staying in hospital covered the cost of the train ticket TO THE PENNY! Add to that, during a Reiki healing therapy session a couple of weeks ago, my therapist told me I just needed a lot of love. I kind of dismissed this at the time. I’m happy in my relationship and I’m happy with my friendships. I only considered at a later date that maybe it was a bit of self-love that I needed! 

The day itself was incredible, and rather than writing it all up myself, if you’re interested in knowing a bit more about these events I’d like to share the blogs of a couple of absolutely wonderful women I’ve been writing to (I mean Snail Mail!) for some time, and have now had the pleasure of meeting! 

I was staying in the same hotel as Laura on the night before the Summit so had the chance to get to know her, and it was so brilliant. She’s an awesome girl and I really feel that this is the start of a beautiful friendship. Read more here.

Becky also has a blog, which is raw and honest. And quite hard hitting. She is incredible. Her blog is truly worth a read as she tells her story and she does it so well. She is the bravest soul I’ve ever met. She’s gone off piste with her blog though for her latest post, and wrote about the Summit which you can find here.

My only key addition to this, is that for the first time since being diagnosed with MS, I didn’t think about the fact that I had it once. More days like that please.
N.B in case you listen to what my dear friend Clare says, no it’s not a Cult 😂 Just a bunch of women trying to find the best version of themselves, whilst also empowering one another. 

The Authentic Me 

Tomorrow night, I’m heading down to London on my own. I’m staying in a Hilton (thanks to the copious amount of points I acquire through staying away for work), and on Saturday, I am attending a Self Love Summit, hosted by Mel Wells.

If you read the “off-topic” posts on my blog, you’ll know that last year I read Mel’s book, “The Goddess Revolution.” And it was life changing. Years of yo-yo dieting ended and I started to accept me for who I am. That’s a journey that I’m still on, but as part of that journey, there was the option for me to go to the Summit.

At the time of getting tickets, I didn’t know when I was going to be getting MS treatment, or where I would be at in my recovery. I’d more or less written it off and that was that. Admittedly, I was getting a bit of FOMO, but I also knew regardless of that I needed to prioritise ME.

But on Sunday just gone, a ticket was going for free. With a quick check on train prices and seeing if I had enough hotel points to cover the cost of the hotel (London ones at short notice are generally not very cheap!) I realised that going to The Summit was something that I could make happen. I snapped up that free ticket and tomorrow my adventure begins.

The Summit is billed as “revealing the most unapologetic, untamed version of you.” Or as I like to refer to it, as the authentic version of me. 

Empowering women such as Megan Jayne Crabbe and Rebecca Campball will be guest speaking at the event, helping to motivate, inspire and teach you to love yourself that little bit more. 

Why do I just NEED to do this?

Well firstly, I deserve a treat after the year I’ve had, don’t you think? But mostly, I kind of feel like I’ve had an identity crisis of sorts. Trying to work out “who Jo is” and “who Jo is with MS” has sent me into a tail spin. Slowly realising it doesn’t actually matter and now trying to accept that, is something I’m working through. For the most part, I’ve got it sussed but I’m still having moments (albeit rarely) where it really hits like a train crash what’s happening to me. And it’s upsetting and scary.

I feel like this year has been the start of a real journey of personal growth and development, and going to the Self Love Summit will be a key part of that journey.

I’ll undoubtedly be back to share my experience after the event, but for now this is pretty much all I can tell you! 

Re-brand!

Tomorrow, 30th May, is World MS Day and it felt right for me to honour it.

I’ve decided to do this by re-branding my blog. I’ve changed the website address to something that’s a bit more reflective of what I write about. I was keen on the play on words which reflects both the fact that MS is totally misunderstood but also nods to the fact that my blog is about me making my MS, understood.

I’ve also decided to try out a new theme, although I can’t say I’m convinced by this new one. But perhaps I’m just having a bit of an aversion to change!

Either way – I’m trying out a new look!

 

Reading in Heels – April Box Review

I’ve regularly talked about my love for letters, so it’s no surprise that I love a subscription box. I’ve never quite found the right “fit” for me though.

My first subscription box was “Gin Explorer”, a gin subscription box that was sent out by the same people as those behind the “Gin Festival”. I loved this, but quickly realised that four 50ml Gins a month was hard to keep up with. I have a reasonably large collection of gin anyway as well as not being a huge drinker. This left me in a space where I had enough gin to swim in! Gin Explorer actually stopped a year ago now, which was a blessing in disguise for me. I didn’t want to cancel through fear of missing out on the “Perfect Gin”, but I knew it was getting too much.

When it ended, there was a gaping hole. I needed that little treat through the post every month. I tried out Birchbox, the Look Fantastic Beauty Box and Glossy Box. Again, none of these ever really grabbed me. I liked the packaging more than the contents! I’m not mad keen on beauty products. My “going out” make up is exactly the same as my work look!

Then just a month or two back, I saw on Instagram, “Reading in Heels”. Now this sounded RIGHT up my street. I’ve found myself reading less and less in our era of Netflix and social media. Maybe this was the thing to get me back into reading!

I subscribed on the 4th March – so I had to wait until the beginning of April for my first box. And I couldn’t wait! They promise that you will not receive a book that’s a chick lit or a crime novel.

After a slight delay due to the 1st of the month falling over the Easter bank holiday, my box arrived and it didn’t disappoint!

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So what’s in the box?

The first thing I found was a guide to what’s in the box. This covered a bit about the different products, plus instructions on how to win your next box (post on social media!) and the hashtag for that month’s box. There was also a postcard asking me some questions about the book which served as a mini review card. This was SUCH a nice touch!

I’d not even into the contents and so far, so good! Once, I opened the tissue wrapping, here’s what I found:

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There’s not much to say about the raspberry marshmallow bar. That got devoured whilst I perused the rest of the contents! It tasted really good and I’ve since found them in Starbucks (and may or may not have purchased one). I’d highly recommend if you want a sweet treat that’s a little lighter.

Next up is the tea. The tea comes from “Lola’s Apothecary”. It just sounds cute doesn’t it?This one was called Clementine Calamity and is billed as a “relaxing wellness tea.” Now if you know me well, you’ll know that any kind of herbal or fruit tea is right up my street. Whilst I love a regular brew, it gives me the worst stomach cramps, so I tend to avoid them. I can’t say it particularly calmed me, or relaxed me. But I drank it with a book in hand which usually means I’m feeling pretty chilled out anyway. It tasted really good – if you like a tea that packs a fruity punch, this one is definitely for you.

So onto the fragrances. These Miller Harris fragrance samples are both lovely, but I definitely have a preference for “Rose Silence” over “Tender”. Tender is a unisex, oriental floral fragrance, whereas Rose Silence is also a unisex scent but has more floral tones.

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The last “treat” before I get on to what this whole box was about, was the face masks, from Opitat. Both are sustainable, vegan and organic. You know the “buzz” words. Today I have finally gotten around to trying out the marshmallow root, english hemp and activated charcoal one. These facemasks are a powder which you have to mix with water to form a paste. I definitely made this more watery than paste like. There was no real instructions though around quantities of water. I added about 10ml in the bottom of a cup, when really it probably only called for a drop or two. The smell is lovely, and I did somehow manage to get it on. You only need to leave it on for ten minutes (so brilliant for impatient souls like me). Watch this space for whether it was worth the effort. Initial reaction suggests it was, but we’ll see how my face feels tomorrow!

Finally, the book. This is not a book I would have picked up in the shop. “The Party” by Elizabeth Day is a book that kept me in suspense. It was one of the quickest reads for me in a while as it kept me on the edge of my seat!

The book centres around Martin and Ben, two best friends. One is from a privileged background whilst the other is not. We first meet Martin as he is being questioned by police following events at a party. We later go on to meet his wife, Lucy. As the tale unfolds, we find out exactly what happened at this party, with lots of reminiscing on Martin and Lucy’s part. We learn how Martin’s friendship with Ben began and then evolved to what it is now, along with what lead to the events at the party. It’s a compelling read and I did not see the twist coming (although that doesn’t say much – the only thing I can predict happening, is the events in Coronation Street and that’s never exactly subtle is it?!)

I gave the book 3.5 stars. I was most disappointed that I didn’t really “connect” with any of the characters and I didn’t feel as though I got “closure” from the book. Something in the ending was missing for me. Having said that, I would consider it a recommended read and have already passed my copy on.

I’ve already received this month’s Reading in Heels, and I will definitely review that once I’ve made it through the contents!

Overall, I highly recommend this box to any book worm 🙂

If you fancy it yourself, Just stick “Reading in Heels UK” into Google – you’ll find them!

8 years ago, I moved.

Today marks eight years since I took the massive step from living with my Mum and Dad in Essex, to starting out alone in Wigan, just outside of Manchester.

At 23 years old, I knew everything and nothing. I never anticipated that my brother and sister would also stretch their wings and fly so far from the nest (sister in New Zealand, brother in Andover). I never anticipated that as I got older, Mum and Dad would too, and I’d start to worry. I never expected to be facing my current challenges.

These things overcome me at the strangest times, but I wouldn’t change my decision in a month of Sunday’s. I’ve very much found my happy place!

I am a planner. I am the maker of lists. But you can make all the plans and lists you want – some things are just out of your control. None of that matters though anymore. Whatever happens you just crack on and do it. And who knows, the life that you end up with could be better than you could ever plan. Moving up North is the best thing that I ever did. I can’t see me ever regretting my choice.

In Essex, I was unhappy. I had few friends. I’d had shit boyfriends. Unbeknown to me, when I made my decision I would have been made redundant from my job if I’d stuck around.

Having the opportunity to start again in the way that I did was just what I needed, and I really believe it all happens for a reason.

I now have the most incredible bunch of girls around me, I have great work colleagues and I have an awesome boyfriend with the most lovely family. I’m still in the same job, in which I’ve grown and developed. The vast majority of the time I thoroughly enjoy it as well, which isn’t something I take for granted.

Dear Northern folk. Thanks for having me!

Why you need a Pen Pal

I’ve previously written about my love for letters, and also about my group on Facebook, The Snail Mail Project.

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It’s slowly growing momentum, we’re now up to 47 members, who are all sending gorgeous happy mail to one another. It really makes me happy to see so many people making friends across the world and receiving beautiful mail through the post!
Anyway, I was talking to one of the members of the group a week or so ago who inspired me to write a series of blogs on the subject, and I felt that a good starting point was “why you need a pen pal!” It’s such a dying art form these days, writing letters. It’s not common for people to put pen to paper in the digital age. So why do it?

Stationary.

If you’re a stationary fiend, just like I am with my mountains of journals, writing letters is an excuse to lay your hands on more beautiful paper. And there’s some stunning writing sets out there. Paperchase is my “go-to” but you can get plenty of beautiful sets from Amazon, TK Maxx and beyond!

Time away from screens.

In a day where we are glued to the screens of laptops, TV’s, phones and tablets, there’s something really relaxing about switching all that stuff off, and it being just you, a piece of paper and a pen. I feel like I’m living right in the present, and being absolutely mindful when I’m writing a letter.

You make a new friend.

How much fun is it getting to know someone new? Through the joy of both sending someone a letter and receiving one back, you also get to know a whole new person! You may even find that it opens opportunities to go and visit a new part of the country, or even the world.
It doesn’t just have to be words on a piece of paper

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You can get really creative with the letter. You can make it look beautiful. You can personalise it. You can even include a gift! If you want to keep it to the price of a stamp, different tea bags can be good (who doesn’t love a good brew whilst they either read a letter, or write back?). Post cards with inspirational words on might be included or photos of your favourite things, places or people, which can help to paint the picture of your life.

Local delicacy’s can be included too, although this might increase the cost of sending a little. This brings me nicely on to…

It’s cheap!

Sure, postage stamps aren’t as cheap as they used to be (I remember getting a 2nd class stamp for about 18p with my first pen pal as a child), but the price is still totally affordable. The only thing you need to be rich in, is time.

Personal

It’s difficult to be impersonal in a letter. When writing by hand, you’re more likely to write informally in comparison to typing. We type emails out at work all day long, so putting pen to paper breaks us from our usual habits. We pour a bit of a soul into the written word in comparison to when we express ourselves electronically.

You can keep them

I’ve not saved a text message since the guy I fancied sent me one that gave me butterflies when I was about 15. Text messages are so transactional I don’t want to keep them anyway. But letters. Someone has put their time, thought and effort into that. Even if I wanted to, I can’t put handwritten letters in the bin. I still have letters that I shared with my friends when I was a teenager, and that attachment to a letter hasn’t changed at all.

If you write a letter, you’ll probably get one back!

And it will be a lovely suprise when it arrives. It will make your day. And guess what?

You get to make someone else’s day!

What better feeling than knowing that you have been the part of the day that made someone smile. They may have had a rubbish day at work (or they may have had a brilliant one), but coming home to your letter, might just be the thing that makes it.